Relationships can be either healthy or destructive. You must become empowered to understand and evaluate why, how, and when you should discontinue or modify the relevance and importance you place on a given relationship. My counsel can help you to identify destructive factors that come from influences of others and allow you the insights to replace these with healthy nurturing factors from relationships that will nurture and add to the new paths that you will be traveling on. My counsel will help you to be able to relate in a different way or discontinue the relationship in a way that is respectful to both yourself and the other person or persons.
My counsel will help you to identify destructive forces that can lie hidden within the guise of perfectly seemingly acceptable relationships. I will show you how to look for traits of destructive or hurtful nature and others.
My counsel will help you learn how to identify and deal with those who:
Avoid closeness and genuine connection.
Show the most important thing they look for as what they can gain first.
Try to hold you down and not allow you to be all that you can be.
Always use flattery regardless of the need each unique circumstance calls for.
Look for ways to gain control over you by seeking to condemn you instead of forgiving you.
Prefer to adopt dominant/ submissive roles instead of relating as self respecting equals.
Show them selves time and time again to be untrustworthy and not balanced or stable.
Ultimately exert negative influences over you.
Disregard the importance of your trust and faith.
When my counsel helps you to learn how to analyze and detect any of these and other characteristics in your relationships it will then be up to you to attempt confront them and see if growth can be accomplished mutually by both parties or whether it is time to move on or at the very least, to reassign the level of priority of relationships with any of those qualities that you discover in your life to that of simply a much lower level. The careful discernment and dealing with this will slowly lesson the effects of the bad relationship and allow it to dissolve rather than making a whole big confrontation out of it that can lead to being further harmful psychologically for you and even possibly give rise to physical harmful circumstances.
Leaving a relationship is not always necessary but should be considered if your own self control, dependance or perception is a problem for you. You may be part of the problem but not be aware of it. If this is the case my counsel can also help with that.
